Noach, husband of past chevre Tamar Bittleman z”l, wrote the letter below and we would like to share it with the rest of the Livnot family. May her memory be a blessing and inspiration to us all.
I want to thank all of you for your words of love, concern, kindness, and support during this overwhelmingly difficult time. The emails, letters, phone calls, and visits both during and after the shiva for Tamar were, and continue to be, a source of comfort.
Please accept my apologies for not writing to each of you individually, I am neither up to the task emotionally nor physically able to respond to the great number of emails of condolence. Know that I do appreciate every visit, every word written, and every phone call made.
Tamar was exceedingly loved by and touched so many people during her too brief life here.
Many people have asked if there is anything that they can do to be of help. My response is to ask every person who wishes to be helpful to make a practical, firm commitment, in Tamar’s memory–Tamar bat Oded– to take on a specific, well-defined, achievable deed, which will make the world a better place. This is a something which Tamar herself practiced, every year at Rosh HaShana she would resolve to take on one new thing for the year, one character trait which she wanted to refine, and work on that one area for the entire year.
For some this may mean learning or teaching Torah, for some it may mean giving tzedaka/charity in Tamar’s memory, for some it may mean resolving to take on a certain mitzva, and for some it may mean transforming a behavior. My hope is that we can, together, create large positive ripples which will flow out to the world around us, and make a difference in this world in which we live. Please feel free to share this with your friends and family, and invite them to join the effort. I would be interested to hear about your efforts and experiences in this area.
Wishing you the best,